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Bat Mitzvah

Girls reach Bat Mitzvah at the age of 12. It is popular for the Bat Mitzvah girl to celebrate this occasion by delivering a Dvar Torah and having a party. Pinner Shul offers a range of options for families to consider when planning for this wonderful time in their daughter's life.

"Rebbetzin Anna is keen to meet Bat Mitzvah girls and their families..."

Rebbetzin Anna is keen to meet Bat Mitzvah girls and their families and include them in a special programme with other girls of the same age.

Pinner has a number of ladies who are available to prepare girls for their Dvar Torah (in a private arrangement).

Bat Mitzvah Celebrations

Rabbi Bergson will be happy to discuss the options with you in more detail to help you come to the best decision for your big day. He can be contacted on 07917 548 386. For many of the options, the Priestly Blessing is said to the Bat Mitzvah at the end of the service. This can be said by the Rabbi or the parents, and a recording of the blessing is available.



Option 1 – Full Ceremony/Programme not on Shabbat

The Rabbi will put together a tailor-made programme/ceremony in conjunction with the Bat Mitzvah girl, her family & her tutor. (This will incorporate her D’var Torah). The idea of this option is to create a meaningful ‘event’ that will be memorable, spiritual and emotional moving for the Bat Mitzvah girl and family.

When?

There are currently 3 possibilities:

  1. A Ceremony on Sunday at the party venue. The Ceremony would take place prior to the start of the party
  2. A Ceremony on the Sunday at the Shul prior to party. Guests can then go onto the party venue.
  3. After Shabbat during winter months incorporating a musical Havdallah theme.

How long?

Approx 45 minutess but this is flexible.

What does the programme consist of?

Possible elements include: Musical Procession with family & Bat Mitzvah girl, Musical Havdallah, Powerpoint presentation/ back drop related to the D’var Torah, D’var Torah with musical interludes that relate to the content, Mother (Grandparents) & Daughter Shabbat Candle Lighting, Parents Blessing, more congregational participation.

The Rabbi’s aim is to develop a programme that will capture people’s interest, be memorable, inspire and uplift and most importantly be unique to you. Please call the Rabbi for further details.

Option 2 – D’var Torah on Shabbat

Format 1 – Before Kiddush

Your daughter can deliver a D’var Torah after the service has finished but before the Kiddush. The entire congregation will be present, ladies will be invited to come forward and your daughter will deliver it from the front of the Shul (from where the Rabbi normally delivers his sermon). After the D’var Torah, the Rabbi will address your daughter which will be followed by a blessing and the singing of Eshet Chayil by the entire congregation. Everyone will then be invited into Kiddush.

Format 2- After Kiddush

Your daughter can deliver a D’var Torah after the Kiddush. All of your guests will come back into the main Shul to listen and some of the regular members of the congregation may come too. Men and women sit together and your daughter will deliver her D’var Torah from the front of the shul (from where the Rabbi normally delivers his sermon). After the D’var Torah, the Rabbi will address your daughter which will be followed by a blessing and the singing of Eshet Chayil by all those present.

Format 3 – On Friday Night 

The Friday night Kabbalat Shabbat service has a very unique atmosphere here in Pinner with beautiful congregational singing. The service includes Minchah and lasts between 45mins to 1 hour.

The D’var Torah would be given at the end of the service. Men and women sit together and your daughter will deliver her D’var Torah from the front of the shul (from where the Rabbi normally delivers his sermon). After the D’var Torah, the Rabbi will address your daughter which will be followed by a blessing and the singing of Eshet Chayil by all those present.

Format 4 - At the Youth Service

Your daughter can deliver a D’var Torah in the Youth Service which is held upstairs in the Beit Hamidrash. You may invite all of your guests to attend the youth service and your daughter will be able to deliver her D’var Torah after the leyning and before Musaf (about half way through the service) or else after the service has finished. The Rabbi will attend and address as well as bless your daughter. For this option, you would need to liaise with our Youth Director to organise the timings.

Format 5 – No D’var Torah

Your daughter does not do a D’var Torah on Shabbat morning at all. The Rabbi will say a special prayer from the Bimah after the leining has finished. At the end of the service and before Kiddush, your daughter can come forward to the front where the Rabbi will bless her, but will not deliver a full address to her.

Other Points

Aliyot - Honours

For any of the options chosen we will honour the father / guardian by giving them an Aliyah (calling them up to the Torah) in the main shul on the Shabbat or Shabbat before the ceremony. (Please note that due to Yarzheits we cannot always guarantee this). If you choose format 4 then any Aliyot would be given in the Youth Service.

Parents Blessing Children

For all options and formats both parents are able to join the Rabbi and bless their daughter  with the traditional priestly blessing (which is customary for parents to do on Friday nights). One parent can say the Hebrew and the other will say the English, whilst placing their hands on your daughter’s head. Please discuss with the Rabbi for details.

Sponsoring the Shabbat Leaflet

You may wish to sponsor the Shabbat leaflet that day where you can add a photograph and paragraph about your daughter. If you wish to you can also include a synopsis of the week’s Sedra, which could be a summary of the D’var Torah.

Follow along D’var Torah notes

There is also the option of printing out the entire D’var Torah and giving them out prior to the delivery.

 

For more information on any of the above please contact the Rabbi or the wardens through the Shul office.